Take Responsibility For Yourself
Often the biggest disappointments in our lives are as a result of misplaced expectations. This is more so, when it comes to our relationships with others.
To reduce unnecessary suffering and frustration, you need to temper your expectations of the other people, in both your life and in theirs.
In fact, this helps you focus on things that are important and truly matter. Take responsibility for yourself.
To Take Responsibility for Yourself, There are Several Things to Remember;
1. Spend Your Time with the Right People
Start spending more time with people who appreciate and love you for who you are. And also, encourage you to become better in exciting and healthy ways. The people who make you feel motivated and happy to be alive. They will accept who you are, and also embrace who you aspire to be. So, spend more time with people who accept you without any conditions and encourage you to be the best you can be.
2. Tackle Problems Head On
We are measured by our ability to overcome our insecurities and adversities, not by avoiding them. Your problems don’t define you. It’s your reaction and how you recover from them that count. So, always try to do what you can, when you can, and with what you have. Also acknowledge what you have done. Life is all about taking small incremental steps in the right direction. In fact, we progress inch by inch. The inches add to feet and onto miles in time.
3. Be Honest with Yourself about Everything
It is important to be honest with yourself about what is right. Also about what need to be changed. Who do you want to be? What do you want to achieve? Seek to always be clear and honest with all aspects of your life. This is because you are the only person you can depend on. Look into yourself. Search your soul for the truth. So, you understand who you are. When you do, you will have better knowledge of where you are and how you got there. Beside, you will be placed to see where you want to go, your destination. Also, how you can get there.
4. Make Your Own Happiness a Top Priority
Value yourself and know that your needs are important. You are sabotaging yourself, if you are not standing up and looking out for yourself. More so, if you don’t value yourself. It is important to realize that you can take care of your need, while simultaneously caring for others. Besides, when you take responsibility for yourself, you become more capable of helping others. You are more able and more valuable to those who need you.
5. Live in the Present, in this Moment, Now
Life is This Moment, right now. The past is gone and the future is yet to come. This moment, right now, is what is real. In fact, it is the only moment guaranteed to us. So, don’t dwell on the past, or worry about the future. Life is now, live in the moment and experience life happening. More over, if you live your life now you wouldn’t dwell on the past or fear the future. So, appreciate the world for the good that it has, in this moment.
6. Value the Lessons, Mistakes Teach You
Know that, it is alright to make mistakes. In fact, that is how we learn and grow. Mistakes are the stepping stones to progress. If you don’t make mistakes from time to time, it most likely means you are not trying hard. You are in a comfort zone and not learning or doing anything new. So, get out of the routine and take risks. You will stumble, fall and get up. Take responsibility for yourself and improve yourself. Keep pushing yourself, learning and growing. When you fail, appreciate that you are learning and keep the lesson. This way you don’t repeat the mistake. Life’s achievements are the result of trying, failing, learning and improving.
7. Enjoy What You Have
Start enjoying what you have. The problem with most people is that they think they will be happy when they reach a certain level in life. Most people hitch their happiness on levels other people are operating on. Yet, the happiness never comes. This is because when they get there, their happiness goal shifts to another level. They end up spending all their lives pursuing things. So, they never stop to enjoy what they have achieved. Make it a point of appreciating what you have. Spend a quiet moment when you wake up appreciating your achievements.
8. Give Your Ideas and Dreams a Chance
If you wait till you are 100 percent sure that an idea will work before you try it, you will never get anything done. Life is about taking a chance, not about getting a chance. Life is a game of probabilities. If you want a life of achievement and happiness, give your ideas and dreams a chance. It’s a win- win situation, because it either you get it done or you learn something. In fact, no matter the outcome, it always ends up as it ought to be.
9. Believe that You are Prepared for the Next Step
Many people spend their lives preparing to live. Live is a not a rehearsal it’s the real thing! You are living now, you are ready for it. You have what it takes to take the next step. So, embrace the openings that come your way. Also accept the challenges. Besides, these are the gifts that will help you grow. Take responsibility for yourself and take the next step.
10. Work Toward Your Goals Daily
Success comes from small incremental steps. A journey of a thousand miles isn’t traveled all at once. It’s done one step at a time. So, take responsibility or yourself and work to achieve your dream. Take small incremental steps daily. Remember, the more effort you put in, the luckier you will be. Most people never answer their calling. This is because they don’t take any action toward their goals.
The “DON’Ts” You Need to Keep in Mind
1. Don’t Expect Everybody to Agree with You
It is your right to be happy. Also, you have a right to live an exciting life. So, stop letting the opinions of others ruin your day. Take responsibility for yourself, don’t to live up to the expectations of other. Also, don’t feel that others are here to live up to your expectations. In fact, the less approval you need from others, the more you will approve of your own decisions in life.
So, stop comparing yourself to others, be yourself and follow your own intuition. Follow your own dream no matter how strange or frightening it may feel or seem to be. Don’t let the success or progress of others discourage you. Stay true to your own purpose and dreams and follow your own path. Success in life is spending it happily in your own way.
2. Don’t Expect Others to Respect You more than You Respect Yourself
The true strength lies in the spirit and soul, not in your muscles. This means having faith and trust in who you are, in your dreams and having the willingness to act upon it. Make a firm commitment never to beg for respect, attention or love from others. Take responsibility for yourself!
When you wake up each morning, go and look at yourself in the mirror. Tell yourself in the mirror that your love yourself, and that you are comfortable with yourself. While it is important to be nice to others, it’s more important to treat yourself even better. Charity as they say begins at home. When you practice self respect and self love, you allow yourself to be happy. In fact, a better you and a happier you will be a better family member and a better friend.
3. Don’t Expect and Need Other to Like You
You are unique and priceless. You are a child of the universe. So, stop feeling unworthy and unwanted. Remember you are worthy, and so spend your time with those who value and appreciate you. Remember that no matter how good you are to other, there will always be people who will criticize you. Ignore such people, smile and move on.
In life the toughest battle is to take responsibility for yourself. The world is fighting to make you like everyone else. So, when you fight to be yourself, some people will not like you. At times, some people will call you names, because you are different. Be ok with that. Remember that the things that make you different are the ones that make you. In fact, the right people will appreciate and love you for it.
4. Don’t Expect Others to Fit Your Idea of Who You are
Respecting and loving others means giving them the chance to be themselves. You will appreciate others more, when you stop expecting them to be in a certain way. Respect others for what they are, and not for you want them to be. Pay close attention to others. You will be surprised that we don’t know others as well as we believe we do. Knowing people well is an important part of what makes them dear and wonderful to us. The more you get to know people, the more you are able to see beyond their appearance and appreciate the beauty of who they truly are. Everybody is beautiful and remarkable. It also takes patient observation to notice it.
5. Don’t Expect Others to Know How You Feel or Think
It is a fact that people are not mind readers. They will not know what you think or how you feel unless you tell them. So, your boss doesn’t know that you want a promotion, because you haven’t told him or her. That cute person you want to know hasn’t talked to you because you haven’t been available either.
Communicating with others well and regularly is important in life. In fact, quite often you are the one to initiate the communication. So, take responsibility for to yourself, let others know what you think and feel. In fact, that is important for your happiness.
6. Don’t Expect Others to Change all Over a Sudden
Is there is a certain behavior a person you care about has, and you are hoping it will disappear over time? It probably won’t. If there is something you want them to change, you have to tell them. Take responsibility for yourself and be open, so that the person can know what you feel and also what you want them to do about it.
Yet, remember for the most part you cannot change people. In fact, you shouldn’t even try! Learn to accept others as they are or choose to get out of their lives. This might sound harsh, while it’s not. Often, trying to change others will not produce the desired result. Yet, when you support them and give them the freedom to be themselves, they change over time and in the most beautiful way too.
7. Don’t Expect Others to Always be Doing Well
Everyone you meet is fighting some battle or the other, well just like you are. So, try to be more kind to others. Remember that every sign of strength or smile hides an inner struggle. In fact, it is every bit as unusual and as complex as your own. Take responsibility for yourself and you will be more helpful to others. In fact, sharing, supporting and contributing to others are some of life’s greatest gifts.
Take full responsibility for yourself. Own your choices and mistakes. Also, be willing to take the necessary measures to improve yourself. In fact, in life there are two choices. Either you take responsibility for your life or another person will. More over, letting someone else take responsibility over your life is to accept to be a slave. You become a slave to the ideas, dreams, plans and goals. You become a tool to help others achieve their dreams instead of pursuing your own. Finally, you are the only one who can determine the outcome of your life. And the truth is it isn’t always easy.