Finding Love and Happiness
Do you find yourself feeling lonely, wondering where you can find love, or seeking love? Many people are in search of love. They frequent social places, surf social media and dating sites seeking love. If you are seeking love, there is bad and good news for you. The bad news; if you seek love, it will be elusive like the mirage, you will see it but you will never get to it! The good news; you will experience love and happiness if can offer unconditional love. If you give unconditional love, love will be a powerful presence in your life, manifest in and around you. Stop seeking love of others, give unconditional love and you will receive love!
Stop the Need to Be Loved
This need comes from being “ungrounded’. It comes from lack of a true identity, meaning and purpose. This makes you need to be loved so to anchor your life. You feel empty and lost without being loved. As a result, you experience negative emotions and feelings. This includes fear, anxiety, self-doubt, indecisive, neediness, scarcity, unworthiness and depression. These feelings build walls and erect barriers around you that keep love out of your life. This often leads to bitterness and self- sabotage – to an empty sad and loveless life.
But Then What is Happiness?
We often make the mistake of externalizing our source of happiness. Such as, if you get that job, marry so-n-so, live in that location/address, get a child, travel abroad etc. Hence, we are surprised when these things come to pass, and we still haven’t found happiness or love for that matter. So we quickly embark on a new quest for the elusive happiness. This becomes a cycle and we never get to find that happiness. Simply, happiness is a process, a journey like life is.
Happiness comes from self acceptance, and self appreciation. And also, feel grateful for the few good things about you. It is contentment, that feeling you get when you do something worthwhile no matter how little. For example, help in an elderly person to cross a busy street. Also, sponsoring an orphan child to complete university education and find a job. Lasting happiness comes from our capacity to appreciate and give freely.
To value yourself, your life must have meaning and purpose. For this reason you need to have or know your mission in life. Often, our mission in life is in what we are passionate about. What is your dream? What are you passionate about? Let your dream posses you, it must be the overriding purpose and anchor of your life. Happiness comes from doing something worth doing. Success, love and happiness are in your daily routine.
Empower Yourself to Experience Love and Happiness
Freely Give Instead of Looking to Receive
It is a universal truth that if you give freely you will receive in a larger measure. Only those who have can give. By giving you feel blessed to have, and can also give love! Giving enables you to develop tolerance and understanding. Besides, you learn to appreciate the good in others and in yourself. You must learn how to forgive. Loving or receiving love will be hard, unless you can forgive and free yourself from the powerful impediments to love and happiness. These include coldness, grudges and hostile feeling. Besides, you feel alive and energetic. So, Life becomes beautiful!
Being good to another is powerfully transforming. Good actions purge and free you from all those negative emotions and feelings. Like fear, anxiety, self-doubt that clings to you. Like leeches, these seep love, happiness and life itself out of you. They produce positive energy that attracts good tidings, love and happiness.
This frees you from feelings of scarcity and neediness that crowd love out of your life. Tithing is a universal law like the law of gravity! Tithing multiplies your resources. It is a secret great people know.
You can help in many ways. Physical like helping that elderly couple alights from the train. Mentally like giving free advice. Material ways like giving food to the homeless, spiritual like enlightening somebody. Helping purges you of the feelings of hostility, coldness, scarcity and neediness. It makes you value and appreciate yourself more.
Is there a cause that touches your heart? Take it up, be a Volunteer. For example, start caring for the marginal people such as the old, orphans and the disadvantaged. You will see life from a different angle, and learn to love yourself and other more.
To find love and happiness then you must learn to appreciate yourself daily. When you appreciate yourself, you become happy with yourself. Besides, when you are happy with yourself, you love yourself. More so, when you love yourself, you become a source of love, a beacon of hope. You don’t seek love. You will appreciate and love yourself more if you begin to give and do for others. More so, giving and doing well to the people in need. This is a secret those who are religious understand. The act of giving is a strong love and happiness magnet!
Build Quality and Real Friendships
Do you want to have quality and real friendships, full of love and happiness? Many people are in search of love and happiness. They frequent social places, surf social media and dating sites seeking love. True love and happiness come from within you. Besides it is only multiplied by sharing it with others. In fact, to build quality and real friendships you must first learn to accept and appreciate yourself. You must also learn how to give love unconditionally. As a result you experience a life of love and happiness, and of quality and real friendships. If you give unconditional love, love will be a powerful presence in your life. In fact, love will manifest in and around you.
To find love and happiness then you must learn to appreciate yourself daily. When you appreciate yourself you become happy with yourself. Besides, when you are happy with yourself you love yourself. More so, when you love yourself you become a source of love, a beacon of hope. To love and appreciate yourself, your life must stand for values, and have a meaning and purpose. Then love and happiness will come from within and you will be a source of love and a beacon of hope. You will attract real friends and have quality relationships full of love and happiness. So, stop seeking love of others. Give unconditional love and you will receive love. Hence, you will be happier, with real and quality relationships.
If you want people to like you, and have real and quality friendships, don’t be a hater. It is inevitable that if you hate, in turn people hate you! To experience love and happiness you must stop hating. So, free yourself from anger and hard feelings. Besides, these cage you and prevent you from giving or accepting love. To experience a life of love and happiness you must control your emotions, words and actions. Learn to forgive, yourself and others.
Forgiving is a Powerful Tonic and Healer
It releases all those toxic emotions and feelings that poison you and invite chronic diseases. Like cancer, heart disease, high blood pressure, and stress that will kill you. These emotions include anger, fear, hate, guilt, grudge and other heavy emotions. They also keep you down, and caged preventing you from giving or receiving love. Free yourself and get rid of them by forgiving. A genuine liking of people is a great asset in building real and quality friendships. It also leads to a happy life.
Be Grateful for the Good in Your Life
Learn the habit of offering gratitude of prayer. In fact, understanding this is the greatest of all factors to helping you lead a fulfilling life. You also have a life full of love and happiness. It will give you peace of mind where everything else has failed. In fact, it will reveal to you how to draw on the powers of the universe and use them for the achievement of your mission or dreams in life. Condition your mind through prayers of gratitude for the blessings you now enjoy. So that whenever you need guidance you will have earned the right and can expect it. Don’t wait till you are in need or have been overtaken by an emergency before going to prayer.
Adversity is Part of Life; Don’t Let It Keep You Down
If defeat overtakes you, don’t use all your time counting your losses. Spare some time to look for your gains. You may find your gains are more than your losses. Stop focusing on the things you cannot control and take responsibility for the outcome you want. Take action that will lead you in the direction of your goals/dream. Stop fighting the inevitable. In fact, accept it. This is the first step to overcoming the effects of any misfortune. You will then have time, creativity and energy to solve to solve the problems you can. Nature never takes anything from you without replacing it with something of a higher value. You receive something better. Focus on doing the best you can and the replacement will soon reveal itself.
A Positive Mentality is Basic to All Achievement, and a Life of Love and Happiness
Your mental disposition determines your reaction to whatever situation you face. Your mental attitude defines your personality. Great people have learned how to keep their minds positive. Meaning, they have a positive mentality. They focus on the good things, look at the bright side. They see what is possible, the good things that can be. Besides, they have learned how to keep their minds focused on what they desire in life. That is, their mission and their dreams in life. So they achieve, develop a positive mentality and you will be an achiever too.
To Lead a Life of Love and Happiness You Need to Develop a Positive Self Image
You must be right with yourself. Be comfortable with yourself, confident, focused and committed to your goals in life. You develop a positive self image through conscious decision and effort. You need to build a positive mental image of the person you want to be. Create a vivid picture of your values. How you want to look like, what you will eat, where you will work and live? How you will dress, how will you walk, move and gestures? Create a solid picture of the life you want to lead. See and focus mentally on your life as you desire it.
Help Those in Need
An effective way of valuing yourself and leading a life of love and happiness is to offer unconditional love to the needy. More so, helping the less fortunate and the disadvantaged, and tithing. Focusing on the needs of others, more so the less fortunate and the disadvantaged, improves your self-worth. It motivates you and keeps you calm and of clear mind. You are focused and goal oriented. Above all, it gives you a positive outlook, one of faith, hope and optimism. Seek opportunities to give, to help others. In fact, volunteer to a worthy cause and you will enhance your self -worth. So, to experience a life of love and happiness you must develop self love and appreciation.
Once you are right with yourself, the world will become right with you. Adopting positive values anchors your character and establishes an identity. You find meaning and purpose in life. In fact, you become independent, a meaningful specific and not a wandering generality. Your life becomes guided. Besides, you get quality relationships. These add value to your life, because they stand on mutual respect and shared values. Hence, you will have real, durable and fulfilling friendships.
You become an achiever. So, people are attracted to you to learn from you, to build with you, to grow with you, to commune with you. You will create networks of quality relationships. These are powerful assets in the achieving your dream or mission in life and to lead a loving and a happy life. Your life will no longer be of desperation and neediness. No more dependence, or constant search and attempt to fill in a void in your life. No more relationships based on moods, feelings and mutual exploitation. Finally, You will no longer be a wandering generality. As a result, you will lead a meaningful life of fulfillment, love and happiness.